"It would seem that something which means poverty, disorder and violence every single day should be avoided entirely, but the desire to beget children is a natural urge."
"There was our father, the heart we knew held all of us. Held us heavily and desperately, the doors of his heart opening and closing with the rapidity of stops on an instrument, the quiet felt closures, the ghostly fingering, practice and practice and then, incredibly, sound and melody and warmth."
"He said you were the only one who was bitter about S.'s suicide and the only one who really forgave him for it. The rest of us, he said, were outwardly unbitter and inwardly unforgiving."
"The advantage of growing up with siblings is that you become very good at fractions."
"The place of the father in the modern suburban family is a very small one, particularly if he plays golf"
"I don't care how poor a man is; if he has family, he's rich"
"The very first time I realized what unconditional love meant ; was the very first time I held each one of my children in my arms. It was love at first sight."
"Whatever they grow up to be, they are still our children, and the one most important of all the things we can give to them is unconditional love. Not a love that depends on anything at all except that they are our children."
"Are we not like two volumes of one book?"
"You don't really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around - and why his parents will always wave back."